What are your conditions
In the nursing station I overheard her say in a firm voice, “I told her clearly, ‘if you continue to swear, I’ll just walk off and stop looking after your daughter.’ I don’t need to tolerate this kind of behaviour. I don’t work to be abused.”
“Yes, but I don’t think she was swearing particularly to anyone though,” her colleague beside her tried to reason.
“It doesn’t matter. This kind of behaviour is simply not acceptable, especially in a hospital ward.”
Some patients or their relatives can be inexplicably rude and difficult to deal with, I can testify! Dealing with them have been terribly unpleasant and stressful experiences, needless to say. The conversation between the nurses about zero tolerance for abuse happened more than a year ago now, but somehow, now and then I still remember it and it makes me think…
What are our real conditions for helping someone?
Can you imagine someone helping you unconditionally? It’s a very strange feeling to be at the receiving end, is what I think.
Tell me what you think.
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I think in a way, as Christians, we have an obligation to serve unconditionally. That’s kind of along the same idea, right?
Personally, I love to help people and to do it randomly and without obligation is the best. :)
yea, that’s along the same idea :) 1 John 4:7-21
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很值得仔细思量的问题。
我可以隐约的感觉到，其实我们每一次帮助他人或多或少都是有条件的，如果不是物质的，就是精神的，包装自己善良的外表？掩饰自己内心的躁动？和他/她更近距离的接触……
其实，真心真意，不图任何回报的帮助真的很少，很少，也许是没有。不知道什么时候，我们学会了因为那些莫须有的理由去帮助他们，然后再粉饰自己行为的意图…
也许，我们真的应该去学会，无私的，没有条件的帮助他们，哪怕他们不会说一声“谢谢”…
这样的功课，我们应该努力的去学习，也许会让自己不断的受伤，但，会让你周围的世界，更加温暖，既然如此，我们为何吝惜自己的帮助呢？
谢谢你愿意分享你的想法！其实我这篇文章有下文的，哈哈：
1。我们对无条件的爱到底认识，了解有多少？“神是爱”是知识还是经历？
2。“我们爱，因为神先爱我们”，我们真的能够认同吗？这不是单单关于想不想让世界成为更温暖这么美丽的念头罢了，我觉得。
doctor Sia, 期待你的下文^^!
请问您是哪一位？以后留个名字好不好！
Maybe she wasn’t really used to hearing bad language. We, as student nurses, were taught to be very tolerant with the client’s behavior. Swearing isn’t as bad as blatant verbal abuse. She should have made a way to dampen her client’s attitude towards her.
With the way her words flowed, she was close to being arrogant, something a nurse shouldn’t be. You can’t just walk out on your patient, can you? And she was threatening a client’s relative. I can only imagine what her superiors would tell her if they chanced upon her saying those words.
As christians, we know the God love and help us unconditional,so I think that we also need live as Jesus-pattern to be good testification of the God .for my real experiences,sometime I helped someone ,but I couldn’t get any reward even saying “thank you”.I was so hurt at that time.however I found the God sent other person to help and care me.so I realized that God treats us fairly.Don’t hesitate to show your warm-heart to everyone ,because the God has been looking at you ,he will cherish you and reward you.
thanks for commenting! mind telling us who you are?
Hey tablecolour,my friend who recognise you told me that you’ve got pretty photos of cherry blossoms.At first I just want to see it ,then I found your interesting stories.I hope that i don’t interrupt you. Judia
Hi Judia, no of course you’re not interrupting. Thanks for dropping by. So were you the one who posted the comment above (the one that starts with “As christians, we know…”)? Next time it’d be great if you could leave your name too! -joseph
yea!I am really the one who wrote that comment.enjoying reading your stories!just keep on posting!
p.s.the photo looks really cool! -Judia
I agree,it is so difficult to believe that someone is going to help unconditionally, even sometimes towards God’s love and fully acceptance,especially when I actually seeing so many failings of myself.
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Tough … I know
I had a similar story with a patients mother who was verbally abusive towards me and the nurses. Putting a cannula in a 8 months old baby with a very agitated mother is like putting a camel through a needle hole. The mother became very abusive after the first try. The nurse was defending me, that made me feel a little bit precious :). I told the nurse to ignore the mother, they can only hurt you if you allow them to :)
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Re: Tough … I know
Been thinking about this topic today.
Im coming from the point that you can control your own emotions and thus your own responses. If you want to be ofended and thus be subjected to a change in your level of care then that is your choice.
To be honest, my care will be better for those I like than those I dislike. I’m not ghandi, but I like the way jesus and ghandi would deal with this situation. Which is uncoditional love :)